Myth #1: Being an Attractive Man Is Always About
Appealing To What Women Say They Want.
If you are one of those vehement supporters of this myth, you should get a noose
and hang yourself - you'll be better off. Trying to get a woman to like
you by attempting to live up to her ideal preferences in a man is a one way
ticket to transforming your ego into a proverbial punching bag. Women prefer
tall dark handsome rich men, packing dogs with garden hose length and telephone
pole girth. Oh, furthermore, if you don't want to fall short of their
expectations you better be lumbered with chiseled abs and a copious bubble butt.
If your rump isn't up to par, you could always get silicon butt cheek implants.
But forewarning: Your black-and-blue rear will be so sore that you won't be able
to sit down for a month.
As those of you know who have been reading my newsletters and have read my book:
Attraction is not what a woman says she wants. If attraction was what women say
they prefer, then I wouldn't know short, bald, fat, and broke guys experiencing
massive success with women. But I do.
Attraction, contrary to this, is about you creating the emotion inside women of
wanting, chasing, and reaching for more of you. Although my short, bald, fat and
broke Casanova buddies don't fill the quota of the “ideal man,” they do
manage to generate the emotion inside women of wanting, chasing, and reaching
for more of them. And this, my friend, is why they are massively successful with
women. The art of creating this emotion in women is what I call PRIZING.
My book is chockfull of different techniques for PRIZING women, some
of which are Open Loops, Tension Loops, Challenging & Qualifying, and
Meta-Frames.
One of the best things you can do to set the groundwork for PRIZING women is to
make them strive to fill the quota of your ideal female. So, when you're out
with a woman, don't behave like a spineless little worm, asking her questions
such as: “How am I doing with you?” Instead, when she behaves in ways that
go against your standards and expectations of
women, let her know that she is losing points with you - and losing points
quickly!
Myth #2: If A Woman Is Of Higher Value Than You She Is Not Allowed To Be
Attracted To You.
This one actually rings some truth. Let me explain. If you see a woman and
immediately, in your mind, consecrate her as a Goddess amongst Goddesses you
must bow down to, you
are figuratively butt ramming yourself, because you are setting the frame that
she is the Prize, not you. As those of you who have read my book know, women do
not feel attraction for men who are not the PRIZE. Viewing a woman you have just
met as a Goddess amongst Goddesses is fine, as long as you perceive yourself as
a God amongst Gods and abstain from bowing down to her.
What is the lesson to be learned? Objective value doesn't exist, only perceived
value does. Although women are usually not attracted to men of lesser value than
themselves, you can do a lot to increase your value. Whenever interacting with a
woman, a Meta-Frame - or underlying meaning - is established, determining your
value in relation to hers. When you allow a woman's perceived value to
intimidate you, or make you feel of lesser value than her, you are unknowingly
establishing the Meta-Frame that she is the PRIZE, not you. So the key is to
stop fretting about some aspect of her being of higher value than some aspect of
you, plundering you of your self-esteem. When interacting with a woman, if you
ever feel ugly to her beauty or pedestrian to her sophistication or like a
retarded little spaz to her sense of cool...or whatever, change your focus of
attention. See the bigger picture. Realize that when first meeting a woman you
paint a picture in your mind of who you think she is, based on a few aspects you
observe about her. This picture usually ends up being way off base. Learn to
take control of your perceptions: If you feel intimidated by her beauty, imagine
what she looks like in the morning without her makeup; if her sophistication
renders you tongue-tied,
consider that she might be putting on an act to impress you; if you start
worrying about how much older you are than her, imagine how much worse she's
going tolook when she's your age...and so on.
Myth # 3: If You Want To Attract Women You Have To Act Like You Enjoy And Are
Interested In The Things That They Enjoy.
This pathetic little myth is really a product of the collective dating advice
for men self-help books for sale at a bookstore near you, touting men to develop
the personality of an obedient lapdog.
This myth couldn't be further from the truth. Women are attracted to men, not
little puppy dogs.
Hypothetically speaking, let's say you are dating a girl who has a thing for
musical kitsch: think Britney Spears or Christina Aguilera. You, however,
despise this kind of music and would prefer the sound of nails on a chalkboard
to this crap. What should you do: Pretend Britney's great or tell her what you
really think?
Although counterintuitive, pretending to like something you don't genuinely like
is unattractive to women.
Likewise, having a willingness to express what you hate
can redound in women finding you very attractive.
Exceptions, of course, do exist. For example, specific activities have been
deemed by our culture as having a high social value. You might, for example,
prefer reading comic books over participating in these activities. There could
be consequences, however, to not participating in them. In one of my upcoming
products, I touch on these activities. I will probably publish a newsletter in
the near future addressing these activities.
Furthermore, I am not suggesting that you jettison all of a woman's interests
and tastes that you do not share. Doing this will turn you into a creepy
control freak and you will probably end up becoming a very unhappy, boring
person. Only being around people with the same interests and tastes as you, will
stifle your growth as a human being - diversity is good. I personally love to be
around people that introduce me to things I don't know a lot about. This is how
I develop new interests and grow as a human being.
My gripe is with men faking an interest in something as a means to get someone
to like them. Doing this is really handing your balls over on a platter to the
other person. Don't do this. Don't give away your power. It is one of the most
unattractive qualities you can possess.
Myth # 4: Women Don't Like Sex And Will Only Sleep With You After You Go
Through Great Lengths Courting Them.
This one really makes my skin crawl. My life experience keeps reaffirming that
beyond the shadow of a doubt this myth doesn't even contain a smattering of
truth. Women love sex
and can be as aggressive as men when it come to obtaining it.
If you doubt this, make some female friends who are not interested in you. That
way they won't be concerned with how you judge them,allowing them to shed their
ladylike pretenses
and talk candidly about their sexuality. Warning: This lurid peek into the
female sexual psyche might frighten you - it isn't for the faint of heart. What
you will find is that women are as sexual as men...if not more. Also, I wouldn't
be surprised if these women told you about how much fun quickies,
one-night-stands, and meaningless sex can be.
Many women hold off on sleeping with men because they lest being judged as
sluts. It can be quite powerful to tease women about acting sexually forward or
aggressive towards you.
Acting genuinely concerned, though, about a woman's sexually promiscuity can
transform a sexually adventurous woman into a frigid prude.
Most men I know who are unbelievable at quickly getting women into bed have a
knack for making women feel comfortable expressing their sexual habits and
promiscuity (Note: This is, of course, in the context of women you've just met.
You probably wouldn't want to encourage this kind of promiscuity in your wife or
girlfriend).
Myth # 5: If You Aren't Currently Good With Women You Probably Aren't Going
To Get Any Better.
Simply not true. I don't believe this myth for a second.
Over the years I have known many hopeless sad-sack losers who no one believed
in, transform themselves into some of the most skilled ladies men I have ever
seen. In many cases these guys ended up more skilled with women than natural
ladies men. This is probably because they had a burning desire to get a foothold
on this area of their life.
This self sabotaging myth is disseminated primarily by shrinks, guys who've had
little success with women, and ladies men.
I know a few guys who were told by their psychiatrists that if they weren't good
with women, they probably weren't going to get any better. And that they'd be
better off compromising by settling for a less than desirable woman. One of
these guys stopped seeing his therapist and is now doing fantastic with women.
He gets a gold star for firing the bastard.
Some guys down on their success with women will try to feed you all sorts of
negative rhetoric, such as: “if you are not already successful with women, you
are not going to get any better.” These guys will infect your mind. Avoid them
like the plague.
Some ladies men will try to mystify their abilities by making you think that
they are blessed with some unattainable God-given talent. Often times this is an
attempt to exalt their abilities at the expense of your self-esteem. Don't take
that crap. You're better than that.
All of the disseminators of this myth are thought viruses that will infect your
mind, sabotaging your self-esteem and future opportunities with women. If you
currently have any of these people in your life, KICK 'EM TO THE CURB.
It is an understatement to say that I believe in you; I am convinced that you
can succeed with women. I have met and taught men of all walks of life who have
successfully turned their lives around with women. No matter what your current
level of success with women is, I know you strive to get to a higher level.
Otherwise, you wouldn't be reading this. I know you are
capable of achieving your goals with women and I am going to help you get there.
And if you haven't already picked up a copy of my book, do so. It's not written
for losers looking to
cope with their unfortunate situation. It's written for winners: People who are
ready to take the bull by the horns and start achieving and living the success
they dream about. At the
end of the day, $39.95 is a small price to pay to be fully equipped with the
tools you need to start experiencing massive success with women. So if you
haven't already picked up my book, do so now.
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