How To Get A Womans Phone Number And Email Address Within Three Minutes Of Meeting Her
by David DeAngelo
Let me start off by telling you something interesting:
I've personally stopped focusing on just getting phone numbers. I've found that
EMAIL addresses are far better (I still get the phone number too, of course).
Let me explain.
I perfected the art of getting phone numbers a couple of years ago.
If a woman is single, I can walk up to her and get her number in about a minute
or two (if I'm in a hurry). I found out later, after working like a mad
scientist on this that GETTING PHONE NUMBERS ALONE DOESNT'T EQUAL SUCCESS.
You see, women have many different reasons for giving out their phone numbers.
Some love the attention of having a lot of men call them. Some like to turn guys
down. Some are actually interested. But the universal feedback that I get from
men, and in my personal experience, women act different on the phone than they
do in person.
When you call a woman for the first time, she'll often start acting stand offish
or even worse, just plain rude. It's almost like she's a different person than
the one you met.
I've found that getting an EMAIL address is not only easier, but it gets more
positive responses later on. It's almost as if women appreciate it that you've
taken the time to think about what you're going to say when you write an email
to them, and they think of you more like someone they know.
The other benefit of email is that it can be written and answered anytime.
If you call, you have to actually reach them. But an email can be answered
anytime. And I've found that emails are answered FAR more often than voicemail
messages.
HERE'S THE HOW TO:
After I've talked to a woman for about 3 or 4 minutes, I'll often say something
like "Well, it was nice meeting you. I'm going to get back to my
friends."
They usually don't know what to do, as they're used to guys clinging to them.
Most of the time, they say "It was nice meeting you too..." Then, just
as I'm turning to walk away, and we kind of disconnect, I turn back and say
"HEY! Do you have email?"
The "HEY!" is a bit surprising, and "Do you have email" is
non-threatening. In fact, I'm technically asking her if she HAS email, not if
she'll GIVE IT TO ME.
If she says "yes," I take out a pen and paper and say "Great,
write it down for me" and I have her write it down. (This is great, as I
just treat the 'yes' that they give me as a yes to get it from them as well. And
they've almost ALL gone along with it so far) Then AS SHE'S IN THE MIDDLE OF
WRITING, I say "Write your number down there too."
When you ask for email, it's very low risk for a woman, so she'll think
"Fine, I'll do that." Most women will give out an email address
without thinking about it, because they know that they can choose later to just
not answer.
The magic of asking them to write their phone number down WHILE they're in the
middle of writing down their email is all about the psychology of human
behavior.
She's already mentally said "OK, I'll give you my email address"...
and she's in the middle of writing it down. When you say "And just write
your number down there too" it's only NATURAL to just write it.
In other words, it's a MUCH smaller step than giving out the phone number all by
itself. It took me a LONG time to figure out this simple move, but it works like
magic! You will have women writing their phone numbers down without even
thinking twice.
Here's a great add-on to make sure you're getting a real phone number and not a
pager or voicemail:
As she's writing down her phone number I say "Is this a number that you
actually answer?" If she looks at me and hesitates, or says that it's her
"voicemail or pager number," then I say "Look, write your real
number down. It's going to be OK, I'll only call you nine times a day..."
They laugh and usually give me their real number.
Now, if she answers my first question and says "No, I don't have
email" then I bust on them and say "Well, do you have
electricity?" This is a GREAT opportunity to use humor.
Then I say "Well, OK then. I like email better, but I'll take your regular
phone number. It's so damn hard to reach people on the phone these days."
Just realize that all you have to do is ask.
Like I said, I've tried all kinds of things. And I've gotten hundreds of phone
numbers. And I use this exact sequence every time I talk to a woman and I want
to get her phone number. I've gotten to the point where I can often do this in a
minute or two - no kidding!
Now that you know the sequence, write it down with the words and the steps, and
rehearse it in your mind over and over until you know exactly what to say for
each step and each response.
Many guys have asked me "But what do I tell her as a reason why I want her
number or email?" I've never had a woman ask me. If you ask, and they give
it, then she knows why you asked. If she doesn't give it to you, then she also
knew why you asked.
Just assume that this is the case.
If you ask every time, and you do it in a smooth, assuming, calm way, you'll get
a lot of emails and phone numbers.
Note: Carry a pen on you at all times. I prefer the Fisher Space Pen (chrome)
because it's small, classy, and women love it!
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How To Get A Womans Phone Number And Email Address Within Three Minutes Of Meeting Her
